If You’re Pregnant... Let Us Help - Pregnancy Resources for Birthmothers
If you’re pregnant...let us help
- Maybe you’re thinking:
- There is no way I can be a parent right now...
someday... but not now.
- But, I care so much about my baby… what should I do?
- Can I really find the right family to raise my child?
- There is no way I can be a parent right now...
Christian Family Adoptions Domestic Infant Program
You may have no idea where to go from here. We get it. We know this can be a confusing, frustrating, and scary time. We’ve been finding adoptive homes for babies for a long time. But that’s not all we care about. We want to get to know you and find out what you want. You do have options and the choice is yours.
Since we’re an adoption agency and you are visiting this site, you must have your reasons for at least considering adoption. At this point you need some information. You could probably use some support from someone who knows about adoption and parenting. Someone who cares about you and your future... and the baby you’re carrying.
Just for the record, we’re a non-profit agency, which means we’re here to help; not to make money. So how do you get started? Well, you probably have a lot of questions, which most likely include the following:
- Should I keep the baby?
This is your decision to make. We are here to give you someone to talk through your options. It is our goal to give you as much information as possible so that you can make a wise and thoughtful decision. We won’t pressure you and we won’t judge you. If adoption is the best and most loving choice for your unborn baby at this time in your life, we will help you to find a wonderful and loving adoptive home.
- Can I raise this child?
Only you can really decide whether or not you will be able to keep and raise your baby. Everyone will have an opinion, and we are here to help you explore the option of adoption and provide you with information and resources to help you make a fully informed decision. If you decide that the time is not right for you to parent, we can help you find a family that resonates with your values, your dreams and who is ready to raise a family.
- I know I will be a good parent someday, but am I ready to be a parent now?
This particular pregnancy may have been unexpected and this may not be the right time in your life to be raising a baby. Whatever your situation is, you have made a thoughtful decision to consider adoption, and we are here to help you not only find a loving home for your unborn baby, but also help you get reestablished and moving forward in your own life. Although there is often governmental, friend, and family support for new mothers early on, the support often decreases or disappears over time as others expect you to take full responsibility for raising your child.
- What about adoption?
Our agency is here as a resource and to provide you with another option for your pregnancy. Adoption can be the most loving choice you can make for this baby. By choosing adoption, you have provided adoptive parents the opportunity to be parents who are ready and able to provide for your baby. Our job is to make sure that the families we accept into our program are safe, loving, and stable potential parents. Without exception, they long to be parents and can’t wait to wholeheartedly devote themselves to a child. We require criminal background checks, medical exams, references, adoption classes… and we’ve been to their home to check it out. Many pregnant mothers view adoption as an opportunity to give their baby what they aren’t able to give at this time.
- Are the services for birthparents free of charge?
Yes, all services are provided at no charge to birth parents. In addition, depending on your needs you may be eligible for help with housing, food, assistance in obtaining medical coverage and other necessities. We often help pregnant mothers with some sort of financial support to pay for pregnancy related expenses.
- What will my family say or do?
It’s hard to predict how family members will react. Chances are that when they see that you are making a responsible choice to provide a loving home for your baby they will be supportive. This is a topic that pregnant mothers often discuss with their Loving Options counselor, who will be a consistent source of support along the way, no matter how others may react.
- How do I live the life I had planned?
You need a chance to breathe and consider what the future holds for you. Getting the support you need from a counselor who will be there for you when you need to talk, find resources, or even just weigh your options will give you a chance to think about your future and make plans to move forward. We will do our best to make sure that you are not worrying too much about pregnancy-related matters and can concentrate on taking steps toward your bright future.
- What’s best for this baby?
If this is not the time in your life when you can be the parent your baby needs, setting up an adoption plan and thoughtfully choosing a family that can provide a stable, loving home for your baby is one of the most loving things you can do for your unborn child. Loving Options has some wonderful adoptive parents who are waiting for a chance to either be first time parents or to add another child to their family. They have been carefully screened by our agency to ensure that they will be fantastic parents. And because you can choose open adoption, you can see for yourself what wonderful parents they will be. You will have the opportunity, if you like, to develop a relationship with the adoptive parents so that you can feel completely confident that you have chosen the best home for your baby. It’s up to you.
- Can I choose my adoptive parents?
Yes! You may choose your unborn baby’s parents. You tell us what is important to you, issues like culture, religion, hobbies, and other children…things like that, and we will present you with families that match what you have in mind.
- What happens before the baby is born?
You will continue to see your doctor and take care of yourself. Your Loving Options counselor will keep in close communication with you, because you are sure to need some answers and encouragement along the way. The two of you will work out a birth plan so that you and everyone else will know what to expect at the hospital. If you have chosen a family for your baby and a match has been made, you may be in contact with the adoptive family during this time if you choose.
- What happens when I go into labor?
When you go into labor you will call your Loving Options counselor who will meet you at the hospital, along with whomever else you have invited to come. The adoptive family you have chosen will be notified and they will come to the hospital and either be a part of the delivery or wait to see the baby after delivery, whatever you have outlined in the birth plan.
- What happens after the baby is born?
After the baby is born you will probably remain in the hospital for 24 to 48 hours. Your Loving Options counselor will be there to support you in any way you need. She will be there to help you with the paperwork. You can also spend some time with your baby before you are released. The adoptive family will also be at the hospital to be there for you, if you desire, and for the baby. You and your counselor will need to let everyone know what you are comfortable with. The hospital social worker will meet with you to sign a birth certificate and hospital release form. We will make sure you have transportation home if you need it, and your baby will go home from the hospital with the adoptive family. Contact with the adoptive family after that time will occur according to the arrangements you and the adoptive family have previously agreed to, which can include letters, pictures, and visits. Your Loving Options counselor will keep in touch with you and support you after you are released from the hospital, too. You will have just made a decision that required a great deal of courage and love, and grieving during this time is natural. You may also feel a sense of relief and peace, knowing you made the right decision, even though it was tough. However you are doing, we want to make sure you have all the support you need.
- Will anybody find out about the adoption?
Everything is confidential through Loving Options and Christian Family Adoptions. The only people who will know are the people you have chosen to tell.
- Do I need a lawyer?
You most likely will not need a lawyer. Your adoptive family will have hired a lawyer and if you need legal assistance they will pay for you to have a lawyer.
- Will the birth father need to be involved?
Birthfathers do have rights. These rights vary from state to state. Your Loving Options counselor can help explain what steps should be taken, considering the information you are able to provide about the birthfather. Many times birthfathers will agree that adoption is in the best interests of their unborn baby, because they want their child to have a better opportunity in life than they feel they can provide at this time, and they do not want the expense of paying child support. We welcome the participation of the birthfather who can be involved in the matching process of the adoptive family. We also will request he sign relinquishment paperwork for the adoption, if possible.
- What if I have used some drugs or alcohol while I was pregnant?
We encourage you to get good prenatal care during your pregnancy. The sooner you stop using drugs and alcohol, the better the chances are that you will have a healthy baby. If the use continues, it can lead to long-term disability for the baby. If your baby is born with special needs there are adoptive families who are willing to adopt and are trained to parent a baby with special needs.
- What hours are you available?
You can call our 24 hour toll free phone number, 1-800-335-7146. You can also reach us by email at firstname.lastname@example.org. We welcome the chance to meet with you and can arrange to meet you privately at a home, restaurant or our office. Call us and let us know where you would like to meet and we will go from there.